I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes and an aching heart. I’ve just driven Caitlin to her dance lesson and on the way she started to talk to me about some stuff that’s been going on with a couple of her friends. Caitlin doesn’t have a large group of friends, when I told her she can ask whoever she wants to her birthday party she only came up with 3 names, so this is not a small problem.
Friend 1, for no readily apparent reason, has taken to telling friend 2 that if F2 wants to spend time with F1 then she can’t spend time with Caitlin and conversely that should F2 choose to spend time with Caitlin then F2 will not be allowed to spend time with F1. F1 has been one of Caitlin’s closest friends since they started kindy together. F2 came into the picture in year 1. These are long-standing friendships and Caitlin (despite much probing questioning from me) can’t work out what has gone wrong. The questioning comes about because I have no illusions about my kids, they’re all just as capable as any other kid of being unpleasant to be around.
But, whatever Caitlin’s faults may be, she has never and would never do something like this to anyone she knew and it’s killing me that it’s happening to her.
We had invited F1 to come ice-skating on Saturday but seeing as, along with the power plays above, F1 has alos been saying she doesn’t need to come ice-skating with Caitlin because she can do that any time with her family I’m now thinking maybe it’s not such a great idea. The really fun part will be explaining to F1’s mum why we’re changing the plans. I’m leaning heavily towards telling the truth.