I don’t usually pay much attention to all those Facebook chain statuses. You know, the ones that try to guilt you into reposting them by implying that not doing so makes you mean and selfish and heartless. I skim read them, feel a moment of irritation, and then move on. But this one stopped me in my tracks. It just felt so wrong.
“While you SCREAM at your woman, there’s a man wishing he could talk softly in her ear…While you HUMILIATE, OFFEND and INSULT her there’s a man flirting with her and reminding her how wonderful she is. While you HURT your woman, there’s a man wishing he could make love to her. While you make your women CRY there’s a man stealing smiles from her. Post this on your wall if you’re against Domestic Violence….”
The way it frames domestic violence as bad because there might be another man who will take your woman away by being nice to her strikes me as a positively dangerous idea to be encouraging in the mind of an abusive partner. And it feels to me as though it turns the woman into an object to be won by a man rather than a human being with rights and autonomy.
Tell me, does anyone see anything good about that quote? Presumably the people who are posting as their status on Facebook do…